Just got off the phone with Dan, talking about Jeremy. I have a lot more information than I had before, and it seems maybe his mom isn't doing too well, although his brother is doing worse. Josh is suffering from severe denial, Dan said even up until the last minutes, Josh refused to believe that Jeremy was sick enough to die. Now he's just withdrawn from everyone and is barely speaking.

Jeremy was diagnosed on May 10, 2002 and died July 5, 2002.


56 days.


The cancer spread so fast and so hard that they barely had time to do any treatment at all. He had two runs of chemo, which did absolutely nothing except make him sicker. After the last run of chemo, the docs sent him home with a daunting constant dose of morphine, and told his family that they were one of the lucky ones, they had a little time to say goodbye. they gave him two weeks, he lasted 10 days.

His cancer was called neural endochrine sarcoma. Dan said the docs told the family only 1 in 13 million had ever been on record with the same cancer. Nothing had ever been found to treat it successfully.

Dan said at the funeral they had his snowboard on top of his casket.

An important fact I didn't know until today was that he had a fiance. She's 8 1/2 months pregnant, due next week.

Im so sad.


From The Bakersfield Californian:




Jeremy Stancliff
Services: Tuesday, July 9, 3 p.m. Wednesday, July 10, 9:30 a.m.

Memorial services will be held at Riverlakes Community Church, 4301 Calloway, Bakersfield, on Tuesday, July 9 at 3 p.m. and Graveside services, Wednesday, July 10 at 9:30 a.m. in Greenlawn Memorial Park, 3700 River Blvd.

Jeremy went home to be with the Lord on July 5, 2002. He died peacefully at home surrounded by his family.

The son of Marty Stancliff and Shelley Hatcher was born on January 13, 1981 in Bakersfield. He attended local schools and started welding after he completed high school. Welding was his passion. He was recently employed at Tiger Tanks where he was well respected and loved. He was a loyal hard worker, who put pride in the work he did. He became very ill in May with a rare type of cancer. It was difficult to see Jeremy suffer through this but he assured us that he was the strong one and would do this for all of us. He never blamed anyone with his illness but gave praise to the Lord for the time he felt good during this difficult last 6 weeks. Jeremy accepted the Lord into his life and has always believed that everything happens for a reason. We may not fully understand it yet but we take comfort in knowing this was Gods plan. We can also be assured that death does not conquer those who die in Christ. (1 Cor. 15:22, 53-56.)

Jeremy enjoyed life. He loved dirt bike riding, snow boarding, the art of tattoos, drawing, music and spending time with family and friends.

Jeremy is preceded in death by his grandfathers, Daniel P. OShea and Wilfred Eddie Stancliff. He is survived by his parents, Marty Stancliff and Shelley Hatcher; stepmother, Denise Stancliff and stepfather, Steve Hatcher; fiancé, Amber Caulfield, and unborn daughter, Faith Haley Stancliff; one brother, Joshua.